"I'm a strong person, I own my own business and I'm a professional speaker," she says.But she admits she could barely function for a full year after the split. Feeling as if something or someone has died takes most divorcees by surprise, especially if their marriages were difficult. But despite those differences, there are some similarities across the board.Yet, if you don't get rid of this distrust toward men it will destroy your chance of finding someone new.
Taking a walk, for example, can put a lot of pressure on two people who have just met. When you hear the word divorce, even if you aren't divorced yourself, I would bet that almost instantly you conjure up images of pain and tears, of yelling and courtrooms, of kids with backpacks, of lawyers and paperwork, of anger and sadness. Statistics tell us that divorce is the second highest stressor after the death of a spouse. The only difference, which can make it more unnerving to walk through, is that the spouse is still alive and well in the world, and you must continue at times to interact with him. But a divorce is the death of a marriage and the death of your dream for it."Therapists who haven't experienced divorce often create false hope," in regards to recovering quickly. Even though she has decided to wait a few years until her daughter is grown to reenter the dating scene, she's confused about how to proceed.