"Teenagers often wonder two things: how to date and what a healthy relationship is," says Jennifer Connolly, Ph D, Director of the La Marsh Centre for Research on Violence and Conflict Resolution at York University."Parents should take an active role in teaching and helping their kids understand what normal dating behaviours are." By understanding what "healthy" dating is at this age, parents can set limits and protect their child. Don’t talk smack about her to your friends when you’re fighting. When you do that, she will trust you more and open up to you more. Perhaps even more alarmingly, it also found significant levels of abuse in these relationships.With this knowledge of the dating scene, why would anyone allow their tween to start dating?What is an effective dating policy for a 12yo boy, in terms of what age he may start, and any constraints he should have for the next few years?
It was totally innocent and sweet, but it got me thinking, “Whoa, my little boy is going to be dating someday! ) FAR FAR away from the dating scene still, I felt inspired to write down some advice for when he’s at an appropriate dating age (10 or 15 years down the road).
At the end of the day, "it's better than saying they shouldn't date at all." "What is healthy is being in a group of boys and girls and transitioning from same-sex-only groups into groups in contact with the other sex," says Connolly.
Groups can offer a safe, protective way for kids to learn.
If there are certain aspects of the person they are dating that you don't like, keep it to yourself.
Try to focus on finding out how the boy or girl treats your tween first.